A Safe Place

A Safe Place

On Day 4 of Dan Robert’s InsightTimer course, we learn about the nervous system. During an explanation of the sympathetic and parasympathetic branches of the autonomic nervous system, Roberts says, “…if we have experienced trauma, this whole system goes a bit wrong.”...
#1 Schema: Emotional Deprivation

#1 Schema: Emotional Deprivation

Dan Roberts says that the most common schema he sees in his Internal Family Systems practice is Emotional Deprivation. This schema develops when parents or caregivers provided for physical needs but not emotional support. They put food in our mouths, clothes on our...
Roxie’s Anxiety and Mine

Roxie’s Anxiety and Mine

Who knows what happened to Roxie? When I got her, she was so afraid of people and dogs she would go into attack mode. Her motto: “I’ll hurt your before you can hurt me.” She snapped at Ken’s hand when he tried to pet her too quickly. She snarled and lunged at Riley,...
Let’s Talk About Schemas

Let’s Talk About Schemas

We’re back to Dan Robert’s Internal Family Systems meditation course on InsightTimer, still on Day 2. Remember in middle school or high school, back when there were art classes, learning how to dig grooves into a linoleum square? Or maybe you did it when you were...
This isn’t what I imagined

This isn’t what I imagined

When I looked into the future, and saw myself acting as my mother’s healthcare power of attorney, I imagined her lying in a coma in a hospital bed, me and her caregivers surrounding her, me relaying her wishes. What I did not imagine was a conversation with my...
The First Two Months

The First Two Months

On the drive to New Jersey, I listened to What Happened to You, by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD. Dr. Perry says that the first 2 months of a baby’s life are the most critical. If a baby experiences loving attachment from birth through two months, the baby...
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