Wrong Assumptions
Sometimes I come to wrong conclusions because I have made wrong assumptions. I have done the equivalent of assuming the world is flat and therefore have been careful not to sail my boat off the edge of the earth. The …
Year: 2019
Vulnerable Times
Still in the vein of living alone but with a thought that applies to us all: be aware of your vulnerable times. When I was freshly grieving Trent, I discovered that the sadness came in the spaces in between. Not …
Experiments
In hindsight, I should have known that I wasn’t going to be able to host Thanksgiving. If I put myself in the shoes of my invitees, would I really want to eat Thanksgiving dinner with somebody I didn’t know? Probably …
Plan C
This year, I wanted to be home for Thanksgiving. I love my remodeled kitchen and I wanted to cook in it. I wanted to play host. I asked another soloist in the building what she thought of a communal Thanksgiving …
Seeing the Good
If we live alone now, and we weren’t living alone before, then something happened to cause us to live alone. It could have been a surprise, “I’m leaving.” Or, “He’s gone.” It could have been harmoniously planned, “This isn’t working.” …
Giving Thanks
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. What’s not to like about a day focused on enjoying a special meal with people* you care about and being thankful? In the spirit of the season, I’d like to give thanks to You. Because …
What Helps & What Hurts
There will be times when loneliness will hit, however it hits you—an ache, a mist, a misery. You don’t feel like a victorious Soloist, you feel like a left-behind Loner. It happens. Before it happens, it helps to have a …
Practicalities for Soloists
It’s time to get down to the logistics of living as a soloist. Here are some things that have worked for me: Put a light on a timer. This wasn’t my idea, it was suggested to me by a clerk …
Themes of Interest
Thank you to everyone who answered last week’s survey. The response rate was 46% (excellent!) and two themes were of most interest: Finding our true selves Navigating life changes There was also a write-in request for a theme: Living alone. …
Titanic vs. Sultana
You’ve heard of the Titanic, yes? Of course you have. Kate and Leonardo made sure of that. But what about the Sultana—do you know about that one? Even though it had almost as many people on board when it sank, …