About All That Chocolate
A friend asked what caused me to take a deep dive into all that chocolate last Friday. I couldn’t think of a reason. But today I figured it out. I ate all that chocolate because I was sad. About Leda. …
Leda
Loving Leda Loving Me
This seems like a good day to talk about love. Usually, when we speak of love, we’re talking about person-to-person love, but there is also person-to-animal love. The most unconditional love is the love dogs have for their humans. When …
I am Kind
You? Kind? Seriously? Who are you kidding? These demeaning words come from the Inner Critic, the voluble, vociferous voice that goes wherever I do, the one who interrupts vulnerable moments. This ‘I am…’ exercise is not my invention. It comes …
New Beginnings
And this is how this series on transitions ends, just as the transition from the Neutral Zone to New Beginnings ends, not with a bang but with a gradual sense of clarity. If the Neutral Zone is a swamp, you …
Keep vs. Cast Off
When you are coming through your transition, when you know where you want to go and are tangibly closer, when you feel you are almost near enough to touch it, you will realize some things about your things: There are …
Knowing Where You Want to Go
Let’s say you know where you are. And you have a good map and a reliable compass. But you don’t know where you want to go. If someone asked, all you would be able to answer is, “Not here.” ‘Not …
Your Compass
Last week I said, “If you know where you are and know where you want to go, if you have a map and a compass, you can effectively navigate the swamp.” Here’s the model I propose for a compass: Last …
Navigating the Swamp
I’m struggling to write about how to navigate the swamp, because it’s such an intensely personal experience, much more so than YMMV. What it feels like, how long it lasts, the questions that pester like mosquitos—all of it comes from …