Sweet Baby Lover
Trent was my partner until he died, unexpectedly, at age 46. I loved him immensely and he adored me. After he died, my friends encouraged me to write out my grief. So I did, on a blog, because it was 2009 and I thought it would be cool to have a blog.
I believed I was writing a biography about Trent so that those who loved him would know what his life was like after he moved to be with me. But I was mistaken. It is a memoir. It is packed with love but it is not a romance novel—hard things happen and there may be more hard than easy. I took the hard with the love and wouldn’t change a thing.
“[Sweet Baby Lover] is a love letter, a memoir,
a beautiful book about what it means to go on the journey of a lifetime.”
– Seth Godin, Author
I wrote this story for Trent. We had been together for maybe a year when he began to share bits of his past with me. He answered the question I wouldn’t let go of, “Why are there nights when you get out of bed and sleep on the floor, with your head under the bed?”
The story is told as a fable, and it’s based on Trent’s life. The house with the three large rocks is located in the aptly named city of Battle Creek, Michigan.
The story came to me all at once. I got out of bed one night and wrote half of it quickly, then finished it the second night. On the third night I read it to Trent. He listened closely, then asked if it would be okay to change one part. I said that it was fine, especially since it was his story. He told me what he wanted to change and how he wanted to change it. I made his change. It was perfect.
In the works…
I’ve always written non-fiction—this blog, my memoir, years of writing at work. But I wanted to try to write a novel. What have I learned so far? It’s like nothing I’ve ever done before. And when I’m not banging my head against a wall, I’m having a blast.
The story is about a woman forced to decide if she will give up what she wants to get what she needs. It explores concepts of self and worth, aging and family relationships. I don’t want to say more than that until I have more to show for it.
If you’d like to be an early reviewer, tell me! I’m looking for feedback and would love to know what you think.