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The Land Deal Story, part 3

The Land Deal Story, part 3

Scott and his dad were less interested in this part of the story, so I was less interested in telling them. I’d rather tell you. Sometimes I wake up knowing things. It’s not like I had a revelation,...

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The Land Deal Story, part 2

The Land Deal Story, part 2

What’s a medium supposed to look like? I had imagined flowing robes and crystals, but Maria Legget wore cargo pants and a sleeveless t-shirt that showed off her tattoos. Her white-gray hair was...

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The Land Deal Story, part 1

The Land Deal Story, part 1

On Monday, I sat in a too-low chair in front of a too-big attorney’s desk to sign papers to sell Beloved Field. Scott was in the chair closest to the door, I was closest to the window, and Mike, his...

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The Upside of a Dementia

The Upside of a Dementia

As my mom’s short-term memory softens, shrinks, and fades, other residents are taking up space in her mind. Criticism has given way to kindness. Anxiety has given way to acceptance. Depression (I...

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Wave Feelings

Wave Feelings

I don’t know what I’m feeling. If the limbic system is wordless, then maybe I shouldn’t search for a label, but an image. I’m feeling ocean. I’m feeling ocean as it felt on the swim I took on Sunday...

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Evidence of Care

Evidence of Care

Last week, I posted this image: Earlier in the week, I worked on a powerpoint deck that included this image: Both these photos can make me cry. Let me explain. The headshot is of me in 2015, shortly...

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Got enough love?

When my husband died and other changes followed, The Love Bucket helped me figure out how to bring more love into my life. If you’d like an objective method to increase the level of love in your life, this guide is for you!

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Jule Kucera