Latest Reflections
The First Two Months
On the drive to New Jersey, I listened to What Happened to You, by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD. Dr. Perry says that the first 2 months of a baby’s life are the most critical. If a baby...
Parts, part 2
Every morning I listened to the next lesson from Dan Roberts, taking extensive notes. Nuggets from Lesson 2 Babies have five core development needs: Love and a secure attachment. Safety and...
The Parts Inside
Because I was feeling unsettled from exploring family trauma, and because my therapist is of the Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy branch of psychology, and because I wanted to know more about Internal...
Ho’oponopono
As I held my imaginary conversations with these ancestors—Emilie and Emil and Joseph—I got the same sense from each of them. Isolation. They shifted from being story fragments to wounded people,...
Emilie Folda
When I think of Emilie Folda, I think of her tombstone. The only photo I saw of her is not even of her. My grandmother, a child, looks so small next to the massive stone. How sad she looks in her...
Inherited Family Trauma
No one ever burned me with cigarette butts or locked me in a closet for hours or days. I was fed and clothed. Whenever a therapist or some other expert said “trauma,” I passed it off. “Trauma”...
Got enough love?
When my husband died and other changes followed, The Love Bucket helped me figure out how to bring more love into my life. If you’d like an objective method to increase the level of love in your life, this guide is for you!
